Amazing how some of the biggest "nuts"in life are unfortunately, related to us. Or maybe, just related to me. After years of a terrible relationship with a family member, it's sad to see that a second chance is just being thrown to the curb side by ways of clinging onto old, bad habits and really, just being selfish. I'd like to say (as a dog trainer) that you can teach an old dog new tricks, but in this case, the student doesn't seem to want or be capable of change.
Change is hard, I get it. Change is scary, but damn it, (to butcher a quote) when does the pain of staying the same, out weigh the pain of change and prompt you to actually change for the better? I guess in some people, never. I have been through so many ups and downs in past romantic and family relationships, and have had hard decisions to make but I've survived all of the changes, learned from them, and come out on the other side of it for the better. Why are some people so incapable of change?
Life is the greatest journey we will ever travel, so why must we anchor ourselves to things, habits, ideas, and behaviors that don't let us experience it? I just don't get it, and it's sad and disappointing, especially when the people you need to change, are family. So how do I deal with this sadness? By confronting the root cause (calling people out on their behavior and how it affects me), and then, by living my life and moving on. That's the scary thing for me I guess, moving on from someone you should be bonded to via bloodlines, but have no connection with at all. Doesn't that go against some law of nature or something?
As I type this, I realize I have my own ideas that act as anchors (don't we all?) that I need to let go of so I can open certain channels of happiness for myself (no baggage allowed!), but I'm okay with that challenge! I leave you with these quotes:
Change is hard, I get it. Change is scary, but damn it, (to butcher a quote) when does the pain of staying the same, out weigh the pain of change and prompt you to actually change for the better? I guess in some people, never. I have been through so many ups and downs in past romantic and family relationships, and have had hard decisions to make but I've survived all of the changes, learned from them, and come out on the other side of it for the better. Why are some people so incapable of change?
Life is the greatest journey we will ever travel, so why must we anchor ourselves to things, habits, ideas, and behaviors that don't let us experience it? I just don't get it, and it's sad and disappointing, especially when the people you need to change, are family. So how do I deal with this sadness? By confronting the root cause (calling people out on their behavior and how it affects me), and then, by living my life and moving on. That's the scary thing for me I guess, moving on from someone you should be bonded to via bloodlines, but have no connection with at all. Doesn't that go against some law of nature or something?
As I type this, I realize I have my own ideas that act as anchors (don't we all?) that I need to let go of so I can open certain channels of happiness for myself (no baggage allowed!), but I'm okay with that challenge! I leave you with these quotes:
"It's the most unhappy people who most fear change". ~Mignon McLaughlin
"They must often change, who would be constant in happiness or wisdom". ~Confucius
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves". ~Victor Frankl
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves". ~Victor Frankl
A lot of people fear change, unable to see change happens whether we like it or not.
ReplyDeleteM Pax - I see it more and more every day, and while I'm no change expert, it just saddens me to see people resisting change for the better. Thanks for stopping by!!!
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